January 22, 2006 6:40 PM Sunday, Jacksonville, Florida

 

Two tags

The tagged from Lani “Profile of my Perfect Lover”, and Jane, “2005 highs and lows” have long been overdue. Much more my IRS Tax Certification Exam.  I have yet to take the test but not quite ready yet as I am still cramming up, reviewing the bulky materials IRS sent to me.  The fact of the matter is I just started leafing through few pages of this 2006 Pub 17 last week right after I got a call from IRS telling me to turn in the homework they asked me to complete.  I tell you, this is overwhelming. My brain doesn’t seem to work as it had been. I am losing the wits and the drive to do the job. Maybe I should step back, re consider other options and think it over again whether or not I really would like to do the individual tax returns of the masses. I mean as it is, I am completely happy and feeling stress free in my current job so why set hurdles to the undemanding life? Aaah I am having a headache righ now so I thought for kicks and gigs, I’ll carry on the blogger’s mission and see if this would inspire me to finish my homework later.

Profile of a Perfect Lover:

Growing up, as hopeless romantic as I am, my dream has always been to marry a perfect man someday.  However, as I grow older, I realized that there is no such thing as perfect man. So I thought, well, I can settle with a good man and I sure did :-)

Target: Tony otherwise..  known as my “DH”. 

Tony when he first enlisted in the Military Service in 1982.
 

I know the controversial coined word "DH" stirred a lot of confusions among Pinays out there ;-)  Truthfully though, he is such a Darling Husband to me and a  Domestic Helper on top ;-).  Although, I won’t deny, he can also, although hardly ever,  be a  D**k Head as well! Oopps, did I say that out loud? LOL

Eight strong points of my  Darling Husband:

1. He loves and accepts me unconditionally. He made a commitment to transform into a better person for the sake of our love and relationship.  He completely quit smoking and gave up drinking beer the day I arrived here in the United States. On some occasions though especially when I am on vacation and he is left alone at home, he still enjoys a bottle or two of beer at night but that’s about it. He vowed never to try tobacco/cigarettes again.
    

2. He never ever raises his voice on me not even when I pissed him off occasionally. He knows exactly how to express his resentment in a most calming way.
    

3. He respects my faith and virtue without question. He, of his own free will, got himself converted from Protestant to Roman Catholic religion to be one with me in the practice of religious conviction.  He waited patiently to make love to me until our wedding night. For once I thought maybe he is a Saint ;-)
    

4. He trusts me completely.  He entrusts with me his finances and gave me full control to his accounts at the very start of our marriage. He also trusts me enough to go anywhere by myself without any single hint of jealousy even when I mingle with other men.
    

5. He is an intelligent and smart man. He earned his Bachelor’s degree as a full academic scholar and graduated Magna-Cum Laude yet he never treats me any less.  He wholly treats me as an equal partner--the only love of his life. He never shows any superiority in our marriage and never makes me feel less of a wife/woman.  He allows me to be on my own self yet gives me comfort and support whenever I need it.
    

6. He is as always willing to compromise and be an “under de saya” husband anytime. He likes to play “the martyr husband” just so to please me and makes me happy but of course I still recognize him as the man of the house. He is definitely NOT “the henpecked husband” nor a pussy whip type but a Real Gentleman. Believe me, after all these years, he still opens the door for me, kisses me and hold hands with me anywhere we go.
    

7. He voluntarily and always go out of his way to help around the house; cooks, wash dishes, do laundry, iron my clothes, do grocery shopping and even hem or put buttons on my pants if I ask him to. He truly makes my life so much easier to live day by day. He is indeed a Darling Husband and Domestic Helper rolled into one ;-)
    

8. He never ceased to make me feel so special, loved and blessed that sometimes I wonder if I ever survive without him in my life. He knows how to treat/pamper me especially on special occasions like anniversary, birthday, Christmas, Valentines and other special occasions. He tells me all the time how beautiful and sexy I am and that I am and will always, forever be the ONLY ONE for him and he goes to assure me all the time of his constant love and devotion.

I’ve found what it seems impossible to find in a man but here I am proudly say I am one of the very few lucky women in this world. 

I am not saying Tony is faultless. Of course, he has his own moments. He gets moody and grumpy too at times especially when he’s so bushed from work much more if they had patient/s who sadly didn’t manage to carry on another day of life due to illness complications.

Tony is also more of an “anti-social”, introvert so to speak type of man. You have to get to know him that well before he’ll open up with you. He also prefers a quiet life and would like to be left alone once in a while to be at peace with his self and surroundings.

Now, if Tony's got the money, hot looking body like when he was 21 (see above picture) he could easily pass for a perfect husband. However, I am thinking out loud, if he is all that perfect, I am afraid, (my insecurity is kicking in again)  I wouldn't be as happy, safe and secure as I am now because I would always worry about other girls snatching him. 

Honest to goodness though, I know deep in my heart that I would fall in love more deeply, over and over again with all the qualities/persona of an overweight, poor and "badoy manamit" na Tony than with any wealthy, hot good looking dude but treats woman like a toy.

Despite of Tony's imperfection and shortcoming, I fell truly in love with him and accept him as he is. He is the one and only love of my life. In fact, he is my life. He means the world to me now and forever!

So what does he get for being such a Darling Husband? He gets a loving back rub every night except on the weekends ;-)

Now the Highs and Lows of 2005 according to date occurrence:

 Highs

1. We bought and moved in to a house that we both are so fond of although it is not quite our dreamed house but we have been pretty happy and comfortable with it.
    

2. I got the decent job in the government I have always wanted to do and now I am loving it.
    

3. We finally got the Road King Harley Motorcycle that we have been drooling for years and now that’s DH’s above-board mistress.
    

4. I met and had a 'biso-biso" with no other than my long time idol, The MegaStar, Sharon Cuneta in person. I was speechless!
    

5. We celebrated our 6th year wedding anniversary in Niagara Falls, Ontario Canada, and it was indeed the experience of a lifetime! 
    

6. I spent a week of solo relaxing gateaway in Chicago and got to meet few friends around.

Lows

1. Our marriage has been bliss, yet lacking one very important part--a child. Needless to say, I think we both are handling our infertility issue with good wisdom at least we know we are and will continue to face this ordeal a little better than many other infertile couples we come in contact with. We want children, and we are that passionate to have kids of our own but we are not that stupid to blow or risk everything we have for IVF then live in misery later just for a slight chance that we might or might not conceive through artificial inseminations. Read the detailed story here.
    

2. We went overboard with our expenditures last year.  Buying a new house and furnishing it with new appliances, furniture and fixtures not to mention another big purchase (Harley motorcycle) definitely depleted our savings to a great extent but we pretty much got everything we want for ourselves and for the house.
    

3. We didn’t achieve our goal to get back in shape but guess what? That would be the major New Year's Resolution this year. I'll talk more about that next time when I'll get a chance to update this page again.